The Freedom From
Addiction Circle
Join a weekly circle of brothers who have found real recovery, guided by a coach with 25 years of experience.
Small group. Confidential. New men welcomed once a month.
"We suffer in isolation, and we heal together. Anyone battling addiction cannot heal it on their own, although the addict will really, really try."Braedy, 31, entrepreneur and father
Most men don't relapse because they didn't try hard enough.
They relapse because they are doing it alone. And because willpower isn't enough.
You know the cycle: A few good days, or maybe a week. You're productive, showing up, feeling like yourself again. Then something hits. Stress at work, a fight at home, or a quiet night with too much time on your hands. And the craving is back.
"I'd put in two or three good days of work, then start drinking that evening. It could be two or three days by the time I was done. After, I felt so much shame, guilt, anger, that I'd be stuck in a terrible mind state for another three or four days. Just in time to pick myself back up, ride it hard for two or three good days, feel that sense of accomplishment, and then do it all again." Mike, 37, construction entrepreneur
Addiction is a loop. A conditioned pattern your brain learned to run when life was too painful, overwhelming, or stressful. You can't break this kind of loop by muscling through it. And it can't be broken alone.
The problem isn't your willpower. It's the map.
- 01Quitting on willpower alone. White knuckling it, until eventually, you break.
- 02Going to meetings. Saying the right things, but never getting to the real healing work.
- 03Figuring it out alone. Because asking for help felt like defeat.
- 04Moderating instead of quitting. Trying to use like "normal people".
- 05Telling yourself you'll deal with it later. Watching "later" turn into months and then years.
If that sounds familiar, you aren't failing. You're using the wrong map. And a man alone with the wrong map will walk in circles no matter how strong he is.
The opposite of addiction isn't sobriety. It is connection.
Addiction thrives in secrecy and isolation. It starts to lose its power the moment you bring it into a room of men who understand it, because they know the struggle, and they know how to escape. It is the mechanism this program is built on.
It is also the piece almost every man skips. We try to think our way out, drink less, hide better, and white-knuckle our way to success. Then life comes at us, and miss a step and end up where we started. What actually works is a structure you show up to every week, a band of brothers you're accountable to, and a group who will carry your load when you can't carry it alone.
- Pain
- Honesty
- Structure
- Practice
- Connection
- Identity
- Purpose
The recovery path unfolds in stages, not all at once. And every stage is easier to walk with other men beside you.
The Freedom From Addiction Circle
A small, confidential men's circle that meets on Zoom every week, guided by me, Ben Goresky. We combine evidence-based addiction recovery with real men's work, weekly accountability, and the kind of brotherhood most men have never had access to in their lives.
You are placed in a squad that never grows beyond nine men. You get a private 24 hour group chat so you are never alone between calls. You build your own personalized recovery plan. And you get the tools, teachings, and frameworks I have spent almost three decades refining. This is not a course you watch on your own. It's a room you walk into every week where men know your real story and hold you to your word. It's a circle for warriors who are willing to fight for their lives.
Three things happen here that willpower never could.
You speak the truth, and it sets you free
The first time you tell the truth in a room of men who nod because they have been there, denial breaks. As Greg put it, "I always thought I was the only one this messed up. In that circle I realized I'm not that unique." That single shift is where recovery actually begins.
Every Wednesday, without fail
The structures in this program give you a new guide to lean on while you build a life of freedom. The strength of our container and the consistency of the meetings make it the largest brick in the foundation of your recovery.
Men who carry the weight with you
Every man has a fantasy that he can be a lone wolf; the hero who does it all himself. But men are built to operate in small squads, like hunters in the wild or navy seals on the battlefield. With this structure, you can win battles that would defeat you on your own. These men will have your back.
Everything inside The Circle
- A weekly two-hour live call with Ben and your squadLive on Zoom, Wednesdays 5 to 7pm Pacific.
- A small squad, capped at nine menSmall enough to go deep. Small enough that you can't hide.
- A private 24-hour chat group with the squadFor support, accountability, and to maintain the connection that fuels sobriety.
- Your own personalized recovery plan built on a 1:1 call with BenA concrete map of recovery across the 5 life pillars. A guide for your new life in recovery.
- Occasional one-to-one check-in sessions with BenTo track your progress and give you extra support exactly when you need it.
- The full toolkit of teachings and frameworksBooks, videos, and the visual models I use to help you understand your addiction and find your way out.
- Early access to live immersive retreatsSmall in-person workshops for deep healing and growth.
- An alumni circle for after you graduateSo you keep growing and stay supported long after your program is complete.
Four men. Four starting points. One thing in common.
"I was under the impression I was the only one in the world as messed up as I am. In that circle, I realized I'm not special. And it was a sense of: together we can fix this."
A capable, driven man building something real on the outside. On the inside, a cycle he could not see clearly: a few good days, a binge, days of shame, then back on the workhorse...for years.
Today he is sober, in a relationship built on honesty, facing the highest stress of his life without once saying "F*ck it". He used to say it weekly. "Hope is the biggest change in my life. You can't be hopeful when you're hungover."
"I had a ten-thousand-pound gorilla on my back for 25 years. I'd put it down for a few months and it would be right back. I didn't know why. I do now."
Heroin in his twenties, then Cocaine, Adderall, Kratom, Weed every day. He had tried AA twice, done outpatient treatment, had sponsors, built real stretches of sobriety. By the time he reached out, he had just lost his job and his now-wife had busted him using too many times.
Today he is married, eighteen months sober, and making huge leaps in his career. "You walk away every Wednesday with your short sword that much sharper."
"Getting sober was like putting down a weight I didn't know I was carrying my whole life."
Fit, capable, self-employed. Underneath: undiagnosed ADHD, alcoholism, and a digital ecosystem of dopamine sources he had run on for decades: Porn, video games, and social media. He wore what he called the "Guy Smiley mask", pretending everything was great while he suffered behind closed doors.
"The worst kind is the functional addict. You don't get help for 37 years." What changed him was being witnessed. "These men know more about me than anyone alive." He says this program was more influential than his 20k Tony Robbins seminar.
"We suffer in isolation, and we heal together. Anyone battling addiction cannot heal it on their own, although the addict will really, really try."
He called himself a casual drinker. Then one night away from home he woke up hungover in a hotel room, money lost at a casino, and saw who he had become. He saw an ad that morning and reached out.
"The consistency of every Wednesday, holding my sobriety accountable to these men. That's what made it sustainable." His advice to any man on the fence: "Just do it. It'll be the greatest investment you ever make."
"This meeting has been the largest brick in the foundation of my sobriety."
Greg, 50, sales director"These men know more about me than anyone alive. There is something about being seen that is a superpower."
Bjorn, 38, self-employed"I had long stretches of white-knuckling sobriety, longing for my drug of choice. With this group I got to the point of craving sobriety."
Alex, Freedom From Addiction alumni"Ben and his group of men literally saved my life, and helped pull me up from rock bottom."
Scott, Freedom From Addiction alumniReal messages. Real men. Real recovery.
Names are blurred to protect privacy.
Trying to build systems and actions that support my desire for sobriety.🔥 4
Our call today was a pretty huge self-realization moment.❤️ 4
We got aligned. This is a huge milestone for me.❤️🔥 5
What I'm really proud of though is I don't feel the urge to act out. This is new for me.🔥 3
I remember several months ago where I was literally afraid to even put an emoticon in here when I was triggered. Day by day though, and one step at a time, and here we are.❤️🔥 6
I'm aware of who I was and that person isn't for me or my family any longer. Wish him the best but this one will take it from here.🔥 4
So this feels like a really big deal.❤️ 5
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Who the Circle is for.
This is for you if
- Your addiction is causing real consequences in your life, and holding you back from who you want to be
- You are high-functioning on the outside but struggling on the inside
- You've tried willpower, meetings, or doing it alone - and it hasn't produced long-term recovery
- You're skeptical of dogma and ready to go deeper than a one-size-fits-all program
- You're ready to do the deeper work you've been avoiding
This is not for you if
- You're looking for a quick fix that doesn't require hard work
- You're not ready for deep work, commitment, and accountability
- You can't make a weekly two-hour call a top priority in your life
- You want to stay anonymous, keep hiding, and let your shame win
Any substance or process addiction is welcome in this circle: alcohol, cannabis, cocaine, opiates, and processes such as sex, porn, gambling, food, or screens. No addiction is so special it needs its own program. They all run on the same loop, and they all heal the same way.
Ben Goresky
Meet Ben Goresky
I am an addictions counsellor with 25 years in the recovery space, and a personal story that started at fifteen, the night a door locked behind me in a residential treatment center where I spent 13 months.
Since then I have worked at four treatment centers and studied every recovery model I could find. I eventually left AA after 15 years, not because it doesn't work, but because I found something that works better for the kind of man who comes to me: high-functioning, openminded, and ready to go deeper than the standard program allows.
Alongside the Circle, I'm a director of a men's community of 750 men who meet weekly in small groups. The men's circle format is the most powerful vehicle for change that I've ever seen. Combined with real addiction recovery structures, it becomes the ultimate tool for men who want freedom from their addictions.
Mike said something to me I want every man reading this to hear: "I am not asking you to trust a credential. I am asking you to look at the men [on this page] and recognize yourself."
This works because it asks something real.
Conquering an addiction requires every ounce of power you can muster. And it requires doing things differently than you have up until now. Here is what you are putting on the line.
- CommitmentMake the weekly call your top priority for the months ahead. Show up every week.
- HonestySpeak the truth, the deepest truth, even when it's hard. And keep your word to the men.
- Openminded-nessBe open to new ways of seeing and understanding, and be coachable.
- Take actionTake meaningful action between the calls. Do things you haven't done before. Be willing to change your whole life.
- InvestmentPut $500 per month on the line. Month to month, until you graduate.
The fire under your ass.
Month to month. Stay as long as it serves you. Most men stay six to twelve months, which is how long it takes to make a meaningful long-lasting change.
The Circle's cost is a fraction of my private coaching fee, and in my experience the group container does things one-to-one work cannot. As Braedy put it, "Anyone who's serious about doing this, it's totally affordable." The real question is not the price. It is what another year stuck in your addiction will cost you.
What men ask before joining.
What kinds of addiction is this group for?
I'm not ready right now. Can I join later?
Do I have to commit to a full year?
Why does it cost $500 a month?
Do you offer one-to-one coaching instead?
How many men are in the group, and when does it meet?
What if the time zone doesn't work for me?
I genuinely can't afford it. Any options?
You have carried this alone long enough.
If you are ready, apply below or book a free discovery call and we will talk about where you are and whether The Freedom Circle is right for you. No pressure, no pitch. Just a real conversation.
The men who are meant to be there, will be there.